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Family: Coping with Death

‘In Thee, O Lord, have I put my hope. Let me never be confounded’
St. Francis Xavier.
Proverbs 31:16-17

She looked after and nurtured him tillhe was 12. There were no complaints. The most adorable kid. Respectful, understanding, ever giving he was all of that. At 13, during play he fell hard, he lost consciousness, they rushed to the hospital. This was a fall due to playing, it's normal... Right? Wrong... they were in for a shock. After tests they found he had a brain tumour. Shocked they ran to church spoke to priest. We are God fearing Christians, why us? What sin have we committed? How do we go on? Just 13.... Through painful radiation and chemotherapy, he pulled on, but with a smile.

Telling his parents, I'll be fine soon. But they knew something was not okay. The doctors kept trying, struggling. The parents hoped for a miracle. At 15 he died. Was it a release for him or an unending separation for the parents?


The couple was married for 27 years. Through thick and thin they stuck by each other. Their trust in each other grew stronger every day. Their home was filled with the warmth of love and aroma of delicious food. He loved her cooking and she did it for him. She loved to watch him eat. Happy and smiling licking his fingers.

But she ate bland. High diabetes controlled her food habits but that didn't stop her from enjoying life. They looked after each other. One day on returning from market she found her husband a little lost. What happened she asked? Where am I? Who are you? He asked. Stop fooling around she said. He looked at her blankly. She was perturbed and scared.

Her children called the doctor home. Has he been like this before he asked? Have you noticed small things, like forgetting where he kept his stuff, forgetting to take medicines, staring into space, unfocused? Oh my God she said yes to all this...but how doctor? She was shock, how could I have neglected him. where did I go wrong? 27 years and he does not remember anything?

Her diabetes shot up, they lost her soon. But he never knew, he had forgotten. 2 months later they lost him. The children were shocked. Mum could not stay without dad she took him.

Love in both instances,
Life carries on.
Death is a reality.
Authors: Sheriffa Dlima and Aloma Budhabhatti
Website: https://www.happyspace.online/